taking christianity out of context?

i'm a christian. i go to church. i have close christian friends. i also have many very close non-christian friends.

now, what gets me aggrieved is the way my christian friends are wary of my socialisation with non-christians, which i thoroughly do not agree with. i repeat. i do not condone some christians' way of thinking that we, christians, should not mix with the unevenly yoked. however, going back to establishing my agenda for this post, the greater emphasis in biblical teachings is that we, christians, should not date/marry non-christians - "do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. for what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? and what communion has light with darkness?" (2 Corinthians 6:14)

firstly, i do not question that biblical law. after all, it is written in the bible. therefore, when pastors/elders realise, for example, that one teenager in the church is going to date a non-christian, they may intervene. ok.... i can understand their reasons for intervention.

BUT! when you tell me, both teenagers are christians, both holding leadership positions in church, but that one leader has the greater potential to develop something more while the other has already maxmised her potential - therefore, that disparity in potential to grow/serve is the cause for objection from the pastors/elders - THAT I CANNOT UNDERSTAND.

i think it looks quite confusing so let me break that down for you. i have a young friend at church, B, young, charismatic leader, the baby of the leaders in his ministry who is tauted to be like "the next big thing" in leadership. he met a girl in church, G, sweet young thing, a stable christian serving as a leader in her ministry. been hanging out, decide that they like each other alot. but B's mentor/pastor stepped in saying - "no, i don't think she is good enough for you. her potential to serve is already maximised. but as for you, you still have a lot more room to grow. if you go out with her, she will pull you down."

ok.... what. the. hell. now, i have alot of respect for the elders/mentors/pastors of the church - after all, their faith, belief and teachers are alot more concrete than mine. but to impose such restrictions and reasoning on a teenager boy - and going to the extent of driving past his house at night to see if he is at home - is ridiculous. B is a regular teenage boy. he is also a good boy. just because he has some star potential to be the 'next big thing' in church or something, doesn't mean his personal love life should be hindered as a result. G isn't a regular church going christian, let alone a non-christian. how can you use a disparity in serving capacities as a logic behind disapproving the r/s?

furthermore, both the parties' parents have no objections to the relationship proceeding, why do the pastors/mentors have to kick up the fuss? don't get me wrong, this has nothing to do with God now. God has never made such commandments or passed these decrees. rather, it appears to me, the pastor/mentor is taking all these teachings and principles, out of context and misusing his position of authority.

i am sure, the pastor/mentor has his concerns, but there is a fine line between concern and going overboard. in mu humble opinion, i think he has crossed that fine line. pastors/mentors are meant to guide, educate and faciliate the spiritually young - which i am sure most have done a fine job of. but at the end of the day, you stick close to the biblical teachings and not manipulate/formulate your own reasoning and thinking it is in line with the black-and-whites. because sadly, sometimes it may not entirely be GOD-prompted.

maybe this is why non-christians are so wary - when a few christians take their beliefs out of context and alot of unpleasantries arise. thankfully, the proportio of these christians are minimal and there is nothing to be cautious about, my fellow friends. at the end of the day, as long as we christians live by our principles/beliefs, be who we are and help others and be a good testimony, let the seeds be sown. the rest, is up to God to do the watering and nurturing.

*disclaimer: this speaks for only a small proportion of christians. i am definitely not putting down any christians in this entry.